Friday, May 28, 2010


Sunday, May 23, 2010 at 7:05am

It is said that everything rises and falls on leadership. I concur! I also want to state that everything falls and rises on relationship. In fact, leadership is a form of relationship. Relationships are important. It is so important that when Almighty God was bringing you and I to planet earth, He didn’t just ‘drop’ us in a mountain to worry, rather, he connected us to a family. Just thinking, maybe I should have titled this ‘BR’ just like a friend of mine titled one of her articles, ‘BB’-i said all that for you to kindly go to my notes and click on ‘my tags’/'notes about me' and you’ll find it-BB.I think it is a must read for all ladies and the guys who love them.

Now let’s get back to business. See, life is all about relationships, all other things are details. Every human being is a living magnet. You were made for connection and not for isolation. Friend, I may not need your permission to succeed, however, i need your contribution. Your net worth is a product of your network. You must also note that no relationship leaves you the same; you are either made or marred; become better or bitter. It is a choice. I have said all this bit by bit because I have a lot to say. Do follow me carefully, please. My drive in this piece is to see how you and I can deliberately cultivate positive relationships. I will ask you to follow me as we see some scriptures from the greatest book on earth-The B.I.B.L.E; Best Instruction Before Leaving Earth; Blessed Information Bringing Life Eternal(My Muslim readers, please permit me-you will definitely learn from these true stories). Now let’s go there!

In Mark chapter 2 from verse 1, it was recorded that while Jesus was in a house (probably Peter’s- one of his disciples) preaching, 4 men brought a paralytic man so that Jesus could heal him. Because of the crowd, however, they couldn’t enter through the door and so, they had to go uncover the roof. Now, what i want you to note in this story is; the 4 men and their action (throwing down a man from a roof because they ‘desperately’ wanted him to be healed) because we are going to compare 2 stories, let’s call this paralytic man, GRANT. There is another story in John chapter 5 but I think I should just copy and paste. Sorry I didn’t use a more contemporary version, my system crashed and I lost a lot of materials. I have not installed the e-word yet. Please read the story and I’ll tell you the learning point afterwards. Let’s call the man in this story, JOP.
John 5:1-12;

1 After this there was a feast of the Jews; and Jesus went up to Jerusalem.
2 Now there is at Jerusalem by the sheep market a pool, which is called in the Hebrew tongue Bethesda, having five porches (doorways).
3 In these lay a great multitude of impotent folk, of blind, halt, withered, waiting for the moving of the water.
4 For an angel went down at a certain season into the pool, and troubled the water: whosoever then first after the troubling of the water stepped in was made whole of whatsoever disease he had.
5 And a certain man (JOP) was there, which had an infirmity thirty and eight years.
6 When Jesus saw him lie, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, he saith unto him, Wilt thou be made whole?
7 The impotent man answered him, Sir, I have no man, when the water is troubled, to put me into the pool: but while I am coming, another steppeth down before me.
8 Jesus saith unto him, Rise, take up thy bed, and walk.
9 And immediately the man was made whole, and took up his bed, and walked: and on the same day was the sabbath.
See verses 6 and 7 again. When the Master asked him if he wanted to be healed, interestingly, he didn’t say YEAH or NAY, rather he said ‘no Man’ (a relationship issue) was available to throw him in. Comparing the two stories, you realize that while the first man got his healing by his relationship, the latter never got a friend. Again, I noticed that the second story informs us that there were 5 porches (doorways). See my analysis; if Jop had 4 friends like Grant did, I believe they would have barricaded the 4 porches (doorways) to prevent others from jumping into the pull and left him (Jop) in the fifth door so he could jump in when the angel came to stir the pool. I do hope I am not getting you confused. I have come to learn that the number ‘4’ signifies balance and come to conclude that there are 4 levels of relationship you and I need to cultivate. Meanwhile, there could be other ‘relational divisions’ (types). However, these are from my ‘school of thought’ and they are (types of relationship):
1. Mentoring Relationship
2. Contemporary Relationship
3. Protégée Relationship and
4. Spousal Relationship

Needless to say, this is going to be a series and I’ll begin to break them down in the next piece. However, let me say that the greatest resource in life is the human-resource. No matter the level you are, you need a relationship-do not downplay any one. I have countless of stories where someone who was a servant yesterday became the boss some time latter. You never can tell. You never can tell, dear. There is a popular saying that you should help someone on your way up because when you are coming down you may need that same person. I must state that relationships is one of God’s channels to give you success- choose them, value them, cultivate good, cherish them, optimize them, diversify them. I said to myself sometime ago that i will have friends from/ in every field possible- from a policeman to an estate surveyor, a banker, a farmer, a lawyer, a politician. Name it! I mean every field. I will keep them very close. Please take a clue. Even if you have to break up with one or two persons for any reasons, please do it well. No wonder a guy said, i can tell you who you will become in 5 years by the books you read and the company you keep. I have also learnt that you are at most 4 men away from a great man. Think properly, you will realize that you are just about 4 people away from a state governor. On campus, I was and I am still close to some ‘great ladies’ from a royal home and I usually say that if I wanted to meet the president, I will meet their dad who is a prince, then to the king, then to the president-yes that’s how ‘easy’ it seems. Think and make most use of the ones around you.

Lastly, just some weeks ago i gave a letter to a former colleague of mine who lost his job earlier. I know a senior friend who was just appointed a regional director in another organization. He acknowledged my letter and in less than a week that my colleague was given an offer and just finished training. Yes-it is the power of relationships. How powerful this principle can be-BUILD RELATIONSHIPS. I know you will make godly and fruitful ones...Please also see; 2 Kings 3:1-17

Be all YOU CAN!


OLANIYI said...

great thought

Good Naija Girl said...

Your blog has been listed on the Nigerian Blog Awards site as requested.

Best wishes!


"You were made for connection and not for isolation"
"Your net worth is a product of your network."
Those were the nails I got from the beginning of the post.

One of my lovely pastors do say, "life is all about relationships; if you fail in relationships, you may have just failed in life." I concur to this post. That's why I always keep my friends dear to me. I value, cherish and adore my relationships.

Moreover, Jesus knew the value of this and ensured he had disciples before commencing his ministry. He had His disciples even before his first miracle - "Cana in Galilee"
I look forward to the series bro. I know I shall be greatly blessed. Bring them on bro :)


gisela said...

thats right, relationships are network of life